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Understand your patterns,

transform your relationship.

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Lila Rhodes, LCSW

Couples Therapy in Colorado

You two keep having the same fight…

No matter how hard you try, the same painful dynamics keep playing out.

One of you withdraws, feeling like your voice doesn't matter.

The other handles more and more, believing that if you don't fix things, no one will.

You've tried everything – books, podcasts, daily affirmations, “I” statements – but nothing shifts these deeply rooted patterns. The distance between you grows wider with each familiar argument.

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Relationship patterns don't develop overnight, and they don't shift overnight either.

Together, we'll explore the underlying attachment needs driving your conflicts – the need to be seen, heard, and chosen that often gets buried beneath blame and withdrawal.

Through this process, you will understand negative cycles and strengthen your connection to each other and yourselves.

My approach to couples therapy

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Lila Rhodes, Licensed Clinical Social Worker

I'm not afraid of the conflict in your relationship.

I see the healing potential hidden within your struggles. I want to hear them.

You carry a deep desire to feel connected, accepted, and understood but sometimes your past experiences bring up familiar reaction patterns that lead to protective walls.

The stories you tell yourselves during conflict connect to your earliest experiences of love and safety.

I'll help you recognize how these old stories and attachment wounds create barriers to the very closeness you want most.

I work from an attachment lens, helping you understand how childhood experiences shape your current relationship dynamics.

Together, we'll explore your negative cycles, not to assign blame, but to learn to see the pattern and create new pathways for connection.

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